Thanks,
Wendy

leave your link to your blog so I can go visit you.

Sex in the animal world, I have been told, is soley for procreation or relaese. But this also discounts the two penguins that were mates for years. They were soley dedicated to each other but every year, there were no eggs layed. Finally the zoo staff caught them both and discovered they were both male. And yes there were unattached females in their enclosure. So were they a committed partnership? It would seem to be.

But I also think that sex in the animal kingdom can not be directly translated to the human kingdom. And yes it is so much more than just an outlet. Somehow there seems to be a misunderstanding with that statement. In no way do I look at sex as just an outlet for tension or hormones. In the animal kingdom, maybe yes, but not in human circles.

In no way can I have a physical expression without love in my heart. My body will not go where my heart doesn’t lead it. Mybe I am speaking out of turn, but I somehow have the impression that you believe that all gay people sleep around. If I am putting words into your mouth forgive me, but I can not speak for any other gay person, but I personally have only been with three people my entire life and I am 36 years old.

Yes I believe our sexuality is a gift from God to be used in an appropriate way with love in our hearts. So maybe we are not that far apart in our thinking. But even if we are, then I have to believe that God has a purpose for both of us in this world. I believe that in no way will I ever be able to completely understand God while I am still on this earth. I think that maybe God is more powerful than the differences we have here on this little planet.

One is left to wonder, if they had come into season when intact males were around, would they have sought each other?

This harkens back to my distaste for looking to such an episode for confirmation in homgenital sexual expressions… At best it is dominance, but if we go for the idea that they “searched for an outlet” some of us are of the thinking that sex and sexuality has a higher calling than serving as an outlet.

So there is homophobia in this world. I don’t think they have come up with a term yet for those like you who only object on a moral basis. And you are right, we won’t agree on this point but I am sure there are many things we would agree on.

As for the dog example I gave, yes for some dogs it is about dominance and submission, certain tribes of monkeys use sex as a way to keep rank and order. But I was speaking about my two dogs who seemed to be tuned into the changing of the seasons. Do I think they were in love? No, I think at certain times of the year, their hormones would peak and they searched for an outlet.

Thank you for stopping by and being able to agree to disagree. This world needs more calm, constructive, communication.

This is an act of aggression, dominance and submission. Not an expression of sexuality. I have 5 dogs and one of them – neutered since he was three months – will do his best to hump any newcomer when I foster to see if he can finally be the top dog. Poor fella, no such luck.

Before going to far afield of the original point I make… I have to stand by my thinking that the use of the term “homophobia” is – as often as not – rather inaccurate. It isn’t a fear in all cases. My opposition to it on moral grounds (over which we likely disagree) is not based on my fear or loathing of persons who are same-sex attracted.

Any new situation can cause apprehension, I was nervous the first time I talked to a gay person too, but for reasons other than your own. But being nervous doesn’t mean you are judging. It is just human nature.

A sad fact of life is that there are jerks in this world. Some of them are gay and some of them are straight. I have seen both sides of this issue. I have seen lesbians who hit on straight women, but I have also seen straight men hit on lesbians with the attitude that they just haven’t had a real man yet.

“Surely, even you must admit, this was horribly inappropriate on at least a couple of levels!”

On the first read I took a bit of offense at this sentence since it seemed to imply that since I am gay then everythig goes, but on further reading, I realized that many times the tone of our words don’t translate well across the internet. So I take no offense.

Your friend’s actions were unecessary, inappropriate, and just plain wrong. All it showed was the common lack of repect for our fellow man. And unfortunately it happens in the gay community as well as the straight. Don’t take that one person’s actions and translate it to every gay person out there. And I won’t take the “God hates Fags” demonstration and translate it to the entire straight community.

Oh by the way, chances are you do know gay people, even living in a rural area. Statistics show that 1 out of 10 people are gay, not everybody is out of the closet and most don’t fit the sterotypes so we are not always easy to spot.

Once again, thanks for stopping by and for your comment. I am sorry that your only interaction with a gay person had to be with a jerk. But there are many more of us out there who would never dream of doing that to anyone. We respect ourselves and every human too much to be that disrepectful.